Relationship Tips To Get It Together

relationshiptips3When you’re constantly at odds with your partner and can’t even remember the last time you had a good laugh together, it’s time to consider some relationship tips to get you going in a better direction.

Work on Yourself:

Be honest with yourself about what you want and who you are, and then be honest with your partner. You can’t get the relationship that you want if you don’t ask for it.

Don’t go into a relationship trying to reflect some image that you think the other person is looking for. You will lose touch with yourself, and your partner won’t be able to appreciate you for who you really are.

Let go of the past. Everyone has baggage, but try not to bring it into your new relationship.

Acknowledge your shortcomings. Nobody is perfect, but your partner will be a lot more willing to put up with some less than flattering behavior characteristics if you will own up to them and put some effort into working on them.

Take some time for yourself. Go out with your friends and leave your partner at home. Don’t smother your partner with your constant presence. Not only will you appreciate the time you have together more because you have a chance to miss each other, but you will have new experiences that you can then share with your partner.

Get Better at Fighting:

Focus on solutions, not the problem. Remunerating over hurt feelings or undesired behavior isn’t solving anything. You’re just playing the blame game, and in the end everyone is hurt. Fighting in healthy relationships focus on finding a way to fix the problem and move on.

Take a time out when arguments get too heated. Too often things get out of hand, and people say things they didn’t really mean. This only serves to hurt the other partner so they can try to get the upper hand in an argument. It isn’t productive, and nobody ever wins in a fight.

Shut up and let your partner speak. This may be hard to do, particularly when you disagree with what is being said, but one of the first things that escalate a fight into a shouting match is a person feeling like they are not being heard. Let them finish, and then respond as calmly as you can.

Have Fun Together:

Keep it fun and go on dates. Don’t let your relationship fall into the rut of day to day life. Keep it interesting and try something new with each other.

Share your hobbies with each other. While it isn’t necessary to commit to the same interests as your partner, take a day and let them share what they are passionate about.

Work on a project together. It doesn’t matter what it is, the general act of collaborating and working towards a common goal will help you carry those skills over into the relationship. It will get you communicating, negotiating and compromising, as well as learning how to problem solve against adversity.

Being in a healthy relationship takes two strong individuals to come together and work towards a common goal. Put these relationship tips to use to build a stronger foundation in your partnership.